You look so great! How did you manage to achieve this? - Exercises, healthy diet and a lot of sex!

Sex is known to promote physical, psychological and sexual health. Most of us are aware of the feel-good benefits of sex while we’re engaged in it, but there indeed are benefits which don’t show up as neon signs, but have been surveyed and researched upon. It is good to know the benefits that Sex can bring.


Improved blood circulation
Sex helps to increase blood flow to your brain and to all other parts of your body. Increased heart rate and deep breathing accounts for the improvement in vascular circulation. As the used blood is cleansed, waste products that cause illness and fatigue are removed.

Longer lifespan
The hormone DHEA promotes sexual excitement and increases in response to arousal. DHEA is considered to be an extremely powerful and important chemical. It helps to balance the immune system, improve cognition and promote bone growth. It maintains healthy tissues, thus keeping your skin supple and healthy. It may also contribute to cardiovascular health and even function as antidepressant.

Good overall fitness
Sexual intercourse burns approximately 150 calories off your body per half hour. During sex, the average person maintains his/ her heart rate above 70% of the maximum. In other words, sexual intercourse can pretty much compare to a great workout session. Regular sexual activity seems to be a pleasurable way to maintain a healthy body weight.

Stress reduction and relaxation
Some people having frequent sex have reported that they are capable of handling stress better than otherwise. The intense relaxation that usually follows lovemaking may be one of the few times people actually allow themselves to completely surrender and let go. Many indicate that they sleep more deeply and restfully after satisfying sexual intercourse.

Reduced risk of heart disease
It is observed that having sex 3-4 times a week cuts the risk of heart attacks/ strokes in half, for men. Sex helps in maintaining a healthier HDL/LDL (good/bad) cholesterol balance.


Healthy prostate
The prostate gland and the seminal vesicles concentrate Zinc, Calcium and other minerals up to 600 times to produce seminal fluid. Unfortunately this would mean that any carcinogens in the blood would also be concentrated to this amount. Ejaculation removes the concentrated carcinogens rather than allowing them to cluster and cause damage.

Reduced depression
Sperms contain a male sex hormone called Prostaglandin, which when absorbed in the female reproductive system, helps to regulate female hormones maintaining a balance and decreasing depression and mood swings.

Improved sense of smell
A hormone produced after sex – Prolactin - stimulates the olfactory nerve (the center for smell). This increases the perception of olfaction and leads to an improved sense of smell.

Pain Relief
The endorphins released immediately after orgasm are natural pain killer equivalents that remain active in the body for several hours after climax. Sex also produces more estrogen in females, which helps to reduce monthly PMS discomfort.

Improved immunity
People who have sexual intercourse once or twice a week have reportedly shown higher amounts of the antibody Immunoglobulin A, thus boosting the immune system.

Better bladder control
The muscles used during sex are the same ones you use to control your bladder. So more sex, better bladder control!


Nicer teeth
This sounds cheesy, but it’s true.. For women who like ‘going down’, seminal fluid contains Zinc, Calcium and minerals that slow down tooth decay!


Foreplay

You've gotta learn the importance of foreplay, which can encompass a wide range of activities, including hugging, fondling, undressing, kissing, petting, and performing oral sex. Why is foreplay so important? First of all, men who cuddle and kiss their partners and know how to enjoy sensitive foreplay will often find that their partners will not only enjoy sexual intercourse more, but will also see their partners reach orgasm more easily. Most women need prolonged stimulation in order to reach a state of complete arousal, and foreplay will provide them with the required stimulation.

Another reason foreplay is important is for the learning experience. Foreplay is the perfect time to spend understanding your partners likes. Remember that only communication can help you understand what is required to improve, and that practice indeed makes perfect! Don't shy away from lack of knowledge. You may ask for feedback and also give your own. Both partners gain from good communication during foreplay and lovemaking. You may even show or guide your partner in the direction you want, encouraging them to do the same.

Some great tips for good foreplay

Never presume anything about women when it comes to sex. Be careful at first. If she likes anything kinky, she’ll let you know, but don’t make assumptions on your own. You might find something hot, but chances are she might find it absolutely appalling.

Create warm and romantic atmosphere. Once the mood is right, take the time to undress each other slowly and deliberately, because the act of removing your partner's clothes can be an important part of successful foreplay. Many find that undressing stimulates and intensifies the feeling, and increases the eroticism.

Always kiss her first. Kissing is the best way to get her in tune to your mood, so make it long, passionate and imaginative. Hold her face in your hands, play with her hair... Be romantic! Women particularly enjoy kissing and nibbling attention to the neck, ears and shoulders. The inner surfaces of arms and legs are also sensitive places you can gently explore.

Tonguing and French kissing are both great, but don't jam your tongue down her throat so deep that she gags. Be more sensuous, and she’ll love it!

Nibble! Nibble! Nibble! ALL women like to be nibbled... Everywhere!

Whisper sweet nothings into her ears, it really works. Women love to hear how sexy they are (almost all the time). If she likes to hear you talk dirty, give it to her. Let her know how much she turns you on. Tell her how beautiful she is.

Don't pressure her. Unless she's into domination, getting snappy with her is not going to arouse her. Take your time and don’t get frustrated.

Touching is very important. Hold her as close to you as possible; gently hold your nose, chest, abdomen or hip against hers. She may seem shy, but she will love every bit of it. However, make sure you’re not suffocating or stifling her with your weight.

Pay close attention to the way her breathing and muscle tension change as you touch different parts of her body in different ways. That’s her subconscious way of telling you what she likes, so you can do more of it. Try different levels of pressure from light to very firm.

Nipple biting, chewing and suckling are not turn-ons for a majority of the women. Use your tongue to flick her nipples and the areolar region. If you simply must bite, then take her nipple between your teeth and tug at it very gently. And while you’re at it, be sensitive to her moans.


Be courteous during fellatio. Most women don't like it when you grab their head or hair and shove it in your crotch. Don't slam yourself down her throat like a battering ram; you’ll only succeed in making her sick. Let her know when you're about to cum; some women don’t like such kind of surprises. Even though many women love to swallow, give her the option of choosing whether or not she wants to. Don't cum on her face or in her hair.

Women love cunnilingus, but only if it's done well. You should be excited about doing it, otherwise don’t do it just for the heck of it. Start with your fingers and then progress to the tongue. Focus on the whole mound, not just the Golden Spot and use variations. Don't just stick your finger in her vagina and wiggle it, you can use your other hand to caress her thighs, butt and breasts. Also, be aware of your facial stubble and sharp nails that might cause her any discomfort.

Use sex toys or any other props at your discretion, only if it’s a mutual turn-on. When everything’s going on very well, the last thing you would want to see is the look of horror on her face.

Women love to be rubbed and massaged erotically. Use warm scented oils once in a while. Work your fingers into her flesh and spend a little extra time on the lower back. Women have sensitive feet which tire easily. A foot massage is a fabulous way to get her to relax and arouse her at the same time.

Remember to prolong the foreplay with more kissing and caressing. Caressing her makes her feel very special, so do it every time one or both of your hands are free.


Being Good In Bed (The aftermath of Foreplay)

Like being sexy and picking up women, and dating successfully, being good in bed is a skill that will never develop if you fear failure too much. Rather, it feeds on its own success. So the most important thing you need to know about being good in bed is that it's not really very complicated or difficult at all.

Remember that you're there to have fun with your partner. Joy and satisfaction are the goals, whether the two of you are just scratching a mutual itch or affirming a lifelong bond. So be generous to your partner -- the satisfaction you give her will come back to you.

There are three basic ways in which male and female sexual response are different in bed that you'll need to keep in mind. These differences determine the basic rhythm and pacing of good sex. First: under ordinary circumstances she can have multiple orgasms in fairly rapid succession, while you can't. This is the most important difference and the one least affected by psychology, mental attitude, or self-training. Second: under ordinary circumstances, she will take more time to warm up to the point where a really satisfying orgasm is possible than you will. Intimacy and trust can shrink the difference but aren't likely to erase it completely Third: her response will vary in subtler and less predictable ways than yours. The best places to stimulate her will wander around; also, women vary as to whether they want progressively heavier or progressively lighter stimulation as they approach orgasm. Her attitude and self-training matter here; women with more experience and/or fewer inhibitions tend to have a simpler and more robust response to stimulation, more like a man's.

These three differences set your basic policy. Unless you know differently about the specific woman you're in bed with, the two basic things you need to do to be a good lover are slow down and pay attention.

The classic male failure mode is to jump on the woman, rush through foreplay, plug a penis into her vagina, and gallop to orgasm before she's even completely warmed up. If she comes at all under that kind of treatment, it's going to be just a shadow of the rip-snortin' multiorgasmic joyride a good lover would take her on. So paying attention and slowing down is still a great idea after penetration as it was before you plunged in. There are various techniques for slowing down, one of them being to thrust deep and then just freeze altogether for a few seconds. If your partner likes deep penetration, this will drive her crazy, and you'll score a few precious brownie points. However, if you’re built large, be careful with all that thrusting… You don’t want her writhing in pain instead of a shuddering orgasm. If you can pace things so you let go just after she begins to climax (that trusted shudder), you’ve succeeded in achieving a good mutual orgasm. Joining in harmony with her cries of ecstasy is quite good manners at this point. She'll feel appreciated. However, don’t fake it!

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The post-coital cuddle is one of the nicest things you can do for her. She knows how hard you’ve been working, and she’ll love every bit of you for it. Just hold her gently for a while. Endearments and light kisses at this point can really send her over the top. Let the afterglow happen. Use this time to talk quietly about personal things, if you are trying to get to know her better.


How to make her Orgasm

Here's what to do if you want to bring your partner to orgasm regularly:.

• don't be too demanding - it's not an Olympic event.
• talk to your partner, and ask her what she wants you to do to her.
• always create a romantic atmosphere.
• make sure that everything is comfortable and nice for her.
• give her lots of kisses and cuddles before you even think about making any approach to her sexual area.
• when you do start to stroke, rub or kiss her genitals, don't rush into 'attacking' her clitoris. Take things gently, and see what she wants.
• use her own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris. (If she is over 40, it may be a good idea to use some additional lubrication from a chemist or a sex shop).
• remember that stimulation of the clitoris is the key to female orgasm.

Clitoral massage (Clittage)
Continuous clitoral stimulation is the key to orgasm for all women. Clittage during intercourse also makes women come as easily as men. Here’s how you go about doing this:

Continuous clitoral stimulation is the key to orgasm for all women. Clittage during intercourse also makes women come as easily as men. Here’s how you go about doing this:

• Apply some water-based lube to your fingers.
• Find the right spot. Explore her GENTLY. Her moans will tell you when you get there
• Move the clitoral tip back and forth in short, quick strokes. Use upward, downward and circular motions. Vibrate the tip. But DON’T press it! This is the most sensitive part of her body you’re touching!
• Don't stop till you feel that shudder. She might push you away… but that’s not rejection! It means you’ve taken her exactly where she wanted to go.

Cunnilingus The tongue is great for stimulating the clitoral tip. Find that golden spot with the tip of your tongue and stroke it, gently and erotically. Stay there and keep going till she’s had several orgasms on the tip of your tongue.

Stroking the Orgasmic Crescent
The clitoris and G-Spot together make up the orgasmic crescent in a woman, equivalent to a man's penis. Follow these simple steps:

• Stimulate the tip of the clitoris with your fingers or tongue.
• Find her G-Spot. When erect with clitoral stimulation, the G-Spot makes the upper wall of the vagina bulge out. Insert two fingers about 2 inches inside the vagina and press against the vaginal wall.
• Stroke the G-Spot with a gentle wiggly motion or by thrusting them towards the upper wall.
• Stroking the clitoris and G-Spot together at the same time can give a woman strong thunderclap orgasms.

Vibrator Intercourse
A vibrator and a dildo or penis together is a surefire orgasm-producer. Do clittage with a plug-in vibrator or wand and stroke the G-Spot and cul-de-sac with a dildo or your penis. But be careful, and use lube.

Clittage Intercourse
Clittage makes intercourse as orgasmic for women as it is for men. You will need to use your hands and your penis. Follow these simple steps:

• Stimulate her clitoris with your fingers.
• Point your penis toward the upper vaginal wall and stroke the G-Spot with short strokes. With a full erection, a woman's cervix lifts up and opens up the end of the vagina. The head of the penis slips into the cul-de-sac.
• Press the head of the penis against the cul-de-sac to produce powerful orgasms in her.

The DON’Ts while you’re in bed

• DON'T criticize
• DON'T mention other women
• DON'T push her head down
• DON'T talk about work
• DON'T ask why she's taking so long
• DON'T ask her if she came
• DON'T attempt sex while she's asleep
• DON'T try anal sex without her permission
• DON'T put her in ludicrous positions
• DON'T scratch yourself, belch or fart
• DON'T ask if you're bigger and better than her other boyfriends
• DON'T fall asleep after 10 seconds
• DON'T jump in the shower right after
• DON'T make her sleep in the wet spot
• DON'T say "I love you", unless you mean it