Some men find it difficult to find approach to women and thus prefer being somewhere aside, suffering. But if you do nothing, you'll get nothing! Ignorance in this matter is no bliss. You need to create your own strategy. Here are a few pointers to give you a push in the right direction:combine them with your own thoughts on this matter and go ahead!
Find a Target-rich surrounding
Yoga class, Gym, Coffee house… There are hundreds of places where you’ll find attractive women. Also, you won’t find too many competitors here like you would at a nightclub!
Take up a Female-centric Hobby
If you are aiming at finding the right woman, take dance lessons, cooking lessons. There are scores of things women like to do. Pick one up, but make sure you’ll enjoy it. Otherwise you’ll be in quite a soup.
Pickup lines
Invent something classy, nice and simple. Do not use cheesy ones like, ‘I’m lost, can you take me to your home’. Most women would not appreciate the sleaziness.
Start up a conversation with her
It is a well-known fact that women love expressing their opinions. If you ask her opinion saying that you do need a woman's point of view, you are likely to win a point!
Get her to strike up a conversation with you
For example, if you’re at a store and you see an attractive woman trying to reach for something off a shelf that’s too high up. Make yourself available… Pretend to pick something off a high shelf (Make sure she can see you though). She’ll undoubtedly ask you to help her.
Chill!
Be cool and confident. No woman likes a clumsy man!
Asking for a phone number
If you’ve hit it off with a woman, and she’s about to leave, don’t just stand there and watch her go. One great way to get her number is to first ask her for an email address. Women are not as touchy about their email addresses. Hand her a pen, and say, ‘Put your phone number down there too, won’t you?' Perhaps, she won't be able to resist.
Your guide to flirting
Who said that flirting is not an art? It is! And not all people manage to make use of this art correctly. Some people are really great at flirting and can give other people that attention and feeling of warmth they want to feel, others need to practice for hours. A good flirt is clear in his/ her intentions, and knows exactly how effective some good-natured flattery is.
Women don’t really throw themselves at men when they flirt (well, mostly they don’t). There are subtle signals and men must learn to be sensitive to them. Here are a few ways in which women show their interest in men:
- Mirroring, copying of your posture
- Dilated pupils and direct eye contact
- Eye contact combined with an arched eyebrow
- Prolonged eye contact
- Batting of eyelashes, blinking or even winking
- Playing with hair while maintaining eye contact
- Open mouthed, teeth flashing smiles
- Lip licking
- Puckering lips
- Thrusting of chest/ breasts outwards whilst holding your gaze
- Holding your gaze whilst moving to music
- Crossing of legs towards you
- Leaning in towards you whilst holding your gaze
- Open legged posture directly facing you
- Displaying flesh of arm or thigh
- They will want to touch you and will reach out to do so with some excuse
- Their tone and speed of conversation mirrors your own
- Lots of laughter and questioning tones
- Singling you out for conversations in a group
Flirting is like a professionally played game. The best flirtatious moments will always take you by surprise. Here are a few ways in which you can counter them and show them you’re interested too:
- Be relaxed, be conversational and be yourself
- Be confident and show it!
- Don't let past rejections make you fearful about interaction
- Be truthful, careful and clear about your intentions
- If she tells you her name, repeat it often in conversation
- Use flattery, but be sincere
- Smile a lot
- Maintain eye contact
- Give her your undivided attention. Listen to her
- If you discover a common interest, discuss it
- Ask her about her life, her job, etc.
These are things you may be doing while flirting. But there are also some things you should never resort to:
- Don't cling to her.
- Don’t paw or grope her.
- Don't wait for her to lead the conversation. Make sure you sound sensible though.
- Don't boast unless she shows genuine interest.
- Don't fidget or appear nervous.
- Don't rush her into anything.
- Make her feel comfortable about the surroundings and with you.
Date Ideas
So, you've finally worked up the nerve to ask her out, and you've got yourself a date. If you find yourself asking, ‘What next?’ you should give the following sections a good read. These are some of the most popular tried-and-testing date ideas; places where you can take her:
- A Restaurant
- Watch a Movie or a Play
- Dancing
- A Jazz Club
- A Concert
- Walk by a lake, river or on the beach
- A Coffee House
- A Comedy Club
- Cook dinner together
- Drive to some scenic place
- Explore some place neither of you have been to before
- An indoor/ outdoor Picnic
- A Game Room
- Bowling
- Roller Skating
- Horseback Riding
- Canoeing/ Sailing
- Skiing
- A Sport event (If she’s of the sporty sorts ONLY)
- A Museum
- A Family Barbeque
- An amusement park/circus
Dating rules
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Before the date (especially, if it is the first one) males try to build a kind of a strategy upon which they act and which (in case of success, of course) finishes in bed. But if something goes wrong, they are likely to feel awkward, at a loss and their bravado disappears. Mind, that women are more sensible in this matter and feel everything men have only thought about. Women are usually far from being naïve, that is to say were not born yesterday and know perfectly well what your major intention is! So be careful, unless you are not afraid of spoiling everything from the very start.
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Infect her with your positive attitude and optimism! Smile and show that you really enjoy her company. If you start complaining, consider your relation to be over. You may get her compassion, but nothing more! Make her laugh, make her be interested in your personality come wind, come weather.
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Don’t be afraid to be rejected and if it happens, don’t concentrate on this small failure – consider it as the next step on the way to your victory and never give oneself up. Let’s say, you asked for her telephone number and she refused. One can say, “Oh, ok, it was nice talking to you” and leave at once. But you not only have to stay, but you shouldn’t show any bitterness or disappointment, pretend you simply don’t care whether you get this number or not, continue your talk as if nothing has happened and, believe me, you are sure to get the number in the end!!!
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Another example: you tried to kiss her, but she didn’t let you. The most common reactions of a man are, “Sorry, I didn’t mean anything of the kind” or sitting in silence creating awkward situation. The phrase of this kind won’t do, because you start lying (it is just exactly what you mean!) and sitting and keeping silent you spoil the whole impression of yourself. Distract her attention and continue the date. One battle is lost, but the war is sure to be won by you!
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Another important thing you should mind: a woman will never sleep with a man, whom she doesn’t respect. Gain her respect, show yourself not only as a good interlocutor, but also as a good listener, interesting personality and an experienced seducer! Mind that Art of seduction and cross the bridge when you come to it!
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Don’t be down in the mouth, if she, after you have seen her home, doesn’t invite you in. it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like you. Perhaps she wants to take her time and doesn’t want to hurry or simply has monthlies. Do not insist, thank her for the great time you had and ask if you can see her again. She can hardly refuse…
How to make an impression
It is true and men are sure to know that women never speak their minds. At least she’s not likely to do so on your first date. It is very important that you do everything you can to make a fantastic impression on her, before she even has time to think for herself.
- Start a stimulating conversation… Talk about things that interest her.
- Use as much wit and humor as you can! Women dig funny men.
- Independence and great self-esteem are a huge turn-on for most women.
- Never whine about ANYthing! Any sort of whining would tarnish your confident image, wouldn’t it?
- Hold her hand every chance you get… But be tactful.
- End the date right… Be suave, don’t appear needy!
What women want...
How can a man know what a woman wants if she herself cannot say it for sure? So, no wonder that most men appear quite baffled when it comes to comprehending what women really want. The fair sex is known to converse in cryptic ways and sometimes men need to be fed straight out of the spoon when it comes to actually reading between the lines. So what do women want?
A survey conducted by a popular women’s magazine revealed the following characteristics in men which are most sought after:
- Confidence
- Humor and wit
- Great smile
- Romantic /Able to connect emotionally
- Well-groomed and attractive
There are certain unspoken signals and vibes that women involuntarily give out if they’re interested in you. Here are a few ways that she may show her attraction to you:
- She touches her face or strokes her hair and tilts her head.
- She touches you, maybe by brushing something (mostly imaginary) off of your clothes.
- She smiles warmly, and sometimes for no reason.
- She leans forward with interest while talking to you.
- She crosses her legs or angles her body towards you.
- She licks her lips.
- She straightens her body, drawing attention to her breasts.
- She gives you short, darting looks.
- She lowers her voice and speaks to you in a softened tone.
- She opens her eyes widely.
- She crosses and uncrosses her legs.
She'll do whatever it takes to make herself more attractive to you, and to emphasize her best points, to let you know that she's interested. So READ her correctly! Don't let her get away!
